I hate flying. I’d HONESTLY rather get a root canal than fly. The process is entirely inconvenient, uncomfortable, and all around horrifying. In fact, I’m sitting in a Dallas airport this very minute enduring a 4 hour layover.
Moving to a place that is no less than THREE THOUSAND MILES (WTF) away from my home town was probably not the best decision if I were making it based on conveneience and ease of getting home. But nonetheless, I’ve found myself as far from my home as possible while still staying in the country. I live ON the west coast. My hometown is ON the east coast. There is no simple way to get there…driving is far too time consuming, so that leaves one option: Fly.
I’ve had to make the trip many, many, many times in the past 2.5 years, so I feel like I’m getting pretty good at the entire process and making it as quick and painless as possible.
But proceed with caution, because once you know a secret, you can’t un-know it.
You can try to pretend you never heard it, but it’ll always sit there below the surface, bubbling; causing ripples in your life.
This secret is wonderful and terrifying at the same time, because it is the one answer to every question you’re afraid to ask, and you already have all the tools to work with you could ever need…
but it involves a tricky little devil with an angels face called free will.
I felt like I should give you fair warning, because what I have to say could drastically change your life.
Picture cannon-balling into a pool. It’s like that.
It creates a real scene.
I know it did (and continues to do so) for me.
If you’re still with me, here goes. Here’s the biggest secret I’ve ever been privy to: Continue reading →
I used to think that in order to really love someone fully, at the highest level, my love had to be unconditional. I’m not completely sure why I thought this way, but I suppose in my head, I knew that every time someone lashes out or becomes disrespectful, it comes from a place of fear; fear of abandonment, fear of losing, fear of the unknown, etc. I derived that to soothe these fears, it was best to let my partner know that there was nothing he could ever say or do to make me stop loving him. By letting him know this, he’d be calmed and reassured that I’d never leave him. This was not a one time occurence. I’ve done it in several relationships.
Because, let’s face it: unconditional love feels really good. I don’t care who you are, we all become difficult to love at times, and it feels good to know that no matter how thorny or prickly or mean we can be, the one we love will never stop loving us.